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No Valentine, No Problem ;)

For the first time ever I’m actually happy on Valentine’s Day! Could it be because I actually have a Valentine? Nope. I ‘m just genuinely happy with life right now.  After years of feeling sorry for myself and wondering what the heck is wrong with me, I’m finally got fed up with the swan song.

The old me would have been embarrassed to admit that I’m 28 years old and have never had a Valentine.  However, the new me is completely comfortable with ALL of my truth. No, I don’t have a special someone in my life, but that doesn’t make my life any less fulfilling.  I actually enjoy getting to do what I want, when I want, without having to answer to anybody, but me myself and I!

Don’t get me wrong; if the right guy came along I’d be more than happy to settle down.  Just haven’t met him yet. In the meantime I refuse to sit around and wait for him. I have one life to LIVE and it’s not gonna live itself. I think too many women obsess over defining themselves through a significant other instead of realizing they were already significant to begin with.  I want a partner in crime not a validation that I’m not “alone.”  If you don’t know you’re a beautiful person inside and out before the guy, trust me it’s not going to change with one.

Being single basically my entire life has given me the pleasure of knowing what type of person I am and what sort of mark I want to leave on the world. In a nutshell, it all comes down to LOVE. I want to make sure everyone I care about knows how unabashedly I adore them. I never want to settle for any relationship (friendship or romantic) whose negatives outweigh the positives.  I’d like to be a beacon for the outsider/loner types and let them know that once you silence the negative voices in your head that cloud your mind, you’ll truly experience a freedom like no other. Love yourself and everything else will fall into place.

I wasn’t the Homecoming queen. I didn’t get invited to one dance ever.  I didn’t go on my first date till college. But don’t cry for me Argentina. Save your pity for someone that needs it! I kind of prefer the road less travelled.  Just because I haven’t yet found someone to ride shotgun on my journey doesn’t mean that it won’t happen at all.  Everyday has the potential for something great to happen.  In the meantime, enjoy your life and do whatever makes your heart race.

I had a great day today! I got home from work and my dad had flowers waiting for me on my dresser. He’s done it every year that I can remember and I love and appreciate him for it. Not every girl is that lucky and I feel like an idiot for having to remind myself of that. I truly have a phenomenal group of people in my life that keep me grounded, give life meaning, and put things into perspective.

It's the little things that truly add up;)

It’s the little things that truly add up;)

Instead of mopping around, I spent my evening with two of my favorite people doing my favorite pastime…. Going to the movies!!! I went with my parents to go see the “About Last Night” remake with my buddy Kevin Hart. Laughed my butt off and finished the night with some Coldstone Oreo Overload ice cream! That stuff is so addictive :0

So funny :0

So funny :0

I know some may view my Valentine’s Day as pathetic or sad, but it was perfect to me. As long as I got to spend the day with people I love, then that’s more than enough for me;) In conclusion, if you were feeling lonely or more aware of your “singledom” (yep just made that up), cheer up buttercup! I’m sure you have plenty of people that love you too. Besides, tomorrow you can stock up on candy for super cheap!

Happy Valentine’s Day


Weathering the Storm

The absurd events of the past 48 hours have given me much to reflect upon. I started out my week on a sour note. Waking up to a massive sinus headache, lower back pain, and stomach cramps is not my ideal way to begin the workweek. Needless to say, I called in sick from work and spent the rest of the day popping pills and catching some zzz’s.

Before I went to bed, I prayed that the Lord would give me some relief since I really can’t afford to miss any work right now. I woke up that afternoon (yes, I love to sleep and when I’m off I don’t wake up until sometime after 1 PM at least. I’m single with no children and I take full advantage of it!!) to a wonderful surprise snow!!!!

This was the glorious view from our front door.

Snow 2

Let it snow!

Being born and raised in Powder Springs, GA, you come to the realization that snow is few and far between, so when we get it you have to enjoy it while it lasts because it’ll probably be another decade or so before you see it stick again. Lol Seeing all the other states get snow recently made me extremely jealous. Yesterday was bitter sweet because I still didn’t feel well enough to enjoy the snow, so I was reduced to admiring it from my window. Little did I know the chaos that was about to ensue.

While I was moping around my warm, food-filled house, thousands of people were scrambling to get home. I turned on the TV and shortly realized that regular programming didn’t air due to the storm coverage. The meteorologists were advising people to be careful coming home because the storm was going to get progressively worse throughout the day. As school closings began to form at the bottom of the screen, I thought to myself “Why were they in school in the first place? Georgia has cancelled school for circumstances less severe than this.”

Before long, I logged on to Facebook to see several of my friends complaining about traffic and frantically trying to get home to be with their families or worse, pick up their children from school. As each hour went by the situation went from bad to unthinkable. I couldn’t believe my eyes. All the accidents and traffic was like nothing I had ever seen, nor would want to see, in my lifetime. I felt so selfish for complaining about being sick. While I was wallowing in self-pity, people were having real, life-threatening problems like being stuck in the cars for 15+ hours with no food or water and no refuge in sight.


Unfortunately, it always takes moments like this to realize how blessed you truly are. I work in downtown Atlanta and had I not cut my hours to address issues I’ve been having with my back, I could have been one of those people. It’s amazing how some things you think are a trial turn out to be a blessing in disguise. I felt so helpless watching all the news stories about children and the elderly stuck in their cars or school buses. I did the only thing I could do PRAY.

Once I finished, I was pleasantly surprised to see all the goodwill being shown throughout the state. I commend all the people that opened up their homes, businesses, and more importantly their hearts to assist all the people affected by this storm. Several websites and news stations did an excellent job of keeping the public informed about the progression of the storm, where to find shelter, what numbers to call for assistance, and last but not least, educating the rest of the country about the seriousness of what happened once we were declared a state of emergency. It’s quite remarkable how the world can make a jaded person like myself believe in humanity again. For all the negativity that has transpired, its nice to know that good prevailed.

Since the people of Georgia did their part by coming together and helping each other, now it’s time for the government to do theirs.  I was absolutely disgusted to hear the excuses being given by the Mayor, Governor, and GDOT. Not to mention, the gauged towing costs and unnecessary car damages.  You can’t tell people to stay off the roads only to penalize them financially for not moving their cars. I don’t feel that the patrons should have to pay for the mistakes of their representatives.  Anytime children are stuck in school for more than 24 hours, people have to sleep in gas stations, abandon their cars, and/or walk home alone in the middle of the night is unacceptable!

I have the utmost respect and admiration for all the teachers, doctors, nurses, police officers, fire fighters, etc. that worked overtime and sacrificed being with their families to take care of others. You should be publicly acknowledged and compensated for your efforts. My mother is a retired teacher so I know first hand the sacrifices you make day in and day out. I hope one day your salaries will reflect the tireless work you do every year.

This is my opinion based on my personal experience, but I’d love to hear your reactions to the Snowpocalypse. Feel free to comment or share your thoughts, pictures, video, etc. !

(News articles and videos courtesy of WSB-TV, 11 Alive News, and CNN.)

Against All Odds: 4th Down and Forever Interview

I just finished my first interview for my new online video network! It was such an honor to interview my dad. Words can’t express how proud I am to see him fulfill a lifelong dream. We are truly blessed. Here’s the link:

Against All Odds Interview

Being that I’m just starting out, any constructive criticism would be appreciated. I know I have a long way to go, but you have to start somewhere!

Thanks in advance 🙂

Also, if you’re interested in promoting your blog, business, or event let me know!

Finally Woken

It’s a new year and I think its time for a new me! For a while I’ve been obsessed with figuring out how to become the successful, independent woman I had always envisioned. Unfortunately, I got to the point where I lost myself and realized that my aspirations for the future were depriving me of the present. There is nothing worse than being alive, but not truly embracing life; merely existing without living.

As a child, I always believed that I could do anything I set my mind to as long as I put forth the effort and commitment. Every goal I set I accomplished. I was always on the honor roll, graduated high school with a dual seal diploma with honors, kept the Hope Scholarship every semester, and made the Dean’s List several times in college. It wasn’t till after graduating from college that I was faced with the harsh reality that sometimes no matter how hard you try or how much you believe some things just aren’t meant to be.

After graduation I felt that all of my sacrifices would be worth it because I was going to land a good job in broadcasting/communications, move out, and embark on this great journey called life. Boy was I wrong!!!

I landed a reporting internship with an online news publication that I hoped would be the first step toward my journalism career. The experience was rewarding because it allowed me to enhance my interviewing, writing, and time management skills. However, (being an unpaid internship) enriching your life with experience doesn’t pay the bills, so I wouldn’t be able to ditch the awful life of retail until I found a job that pays.

I’ve never been afraid of hard work and I understood that I would have to fight my way to the top, but I didn’t anticipate that the journalism market would decide to downsize when I graduated. Perfect timing right?!?!? Finding another job and/or paid internship became virtually impossible. I went on interview after interview only to be rejected with the same response: “You’re really talented and have a great attitude, but we went with someone with more experience.” How was I supposed to gain experience when no one is willing to give you a chance and even the entry level jobs require at least 3 years of experience?

The next thing I know 5 years have past and I’m still in the same place I was after graduation. The only difference was that the ridiculously hopeful woman I was withered away and all that was left was a defeated, jaded, and lifeless person. Every aspect of my life was depressing. I hated that I was a college graduate still working the same job I had since high school. All of the people I graduated with seemed to be making it happen in one way or another, so what was wrong with me. I used to have all the confidence in the world, but now I questioned if I was as special as I thought. I was the person that was the overachiever and most likely to succeed. The one that everyone (including myself) thought would change the world, make a difference. Why did it feel like the world stopped believing in me?

I got to the point where I isolated myself from everyone because I couldn’t bear to answer the inevitable questions: “How are you and what have you been up to? I couldn’t lie anymore and mask a happy disposition. The truth is I was sad… lost … depressed… angry and ashamed. I had fallen from grace and I didn’t know how to be myself or pick myself up. A person can only take so much rejection before they break.

I was at a crossroads. I needed help, but I had rejected all who attempted including my family and friends. Finally my parents convinced me to try therapy. Being a private person, I felt anxious about divulging my feelings to a stranger. However, it was better than the alternative of continuing to wake up everyday wishing it were my last. It turns out therapy was the best thing for me. It saved my life.

I spent so much time creating this perfect persona and being the person that everyone thought I should be. I defined myself through my accomplishments instead of things that mattered like my compassion for others, my quirky sense of humor, or my selflessness. It took hearing it from an absolute stranger for me to realize that my life was worth living and it’s never to late to start over. It’s important to have goals, but they shouldn’t consume you. My ambition wasn’t the problem; I just needed to narrow the scope. Instead of worrying about the future, I take life one day at a time. I also stopped being afraid to speak my truth… thoughts…. and opinions. I started to embrace all aspects of my life good and bad because each experience was necessary. I needed to be beaten down to my core to realize how strong and resilient I truly am. I no longer strive for perfection. I just want to be the best version of myself and not repeat mistakes, but learn from them. I also had to concede that I couldn’t continue to worry about things I have no control over. Life happens. You just have to roll with the punches and keep your head up. My faith in God has been renewed because I know that the only reason I’m alive to tell my story is because of the countless prayers from family and friends on my behalf. It means the world to me to know that so many found my life worthy when I believed it was worthless. I was able to see who my true friends were and words can’t express my gratitude for every single one of you.

It took a couple years after therapy for me to truly exercise the techniques I acquired. I’m proud of myself for sharing my struggles because it’s something that I never would have done because I put more value in other’s opinion’s instead of my own. We all go through internal struggles and no one knows the depth but ourselves. It’s imperative that we acknowledge our emotions and not judge each other. Life is not black and white, but various shades of grey. If you only focus on the negative, then there’s no room for positivity to flourish. It’s always darkest before the dawn rang true in my case. Self-discovery is a beast, but it helped me conquer my demons and gave me a more realistic perspective on life.

I’ve let fear run my life for so long and I’m sick of it. I may not be where I want to be, but I know I’m closer than I was yesterday. In 2014, I want to open myself up to new experiences and people. I want to be the difference in the world I aspired to as a child. I want this blog to reflect all the aspects of myself that I’m passionate about and spark my interest like film, television, fashion, communication, faith, etc.

I recently created a profile on a video networking website called Tiffany Ignited and it will have the official launch soon!!!! The purpose of the site is to provide a one-stop shop to becoming a savvy communicator in today’s market. Throughout my life I have acquired numerous techniques for effective communication and now is the time for me to share these skills with the public through this innovative platform. I aim to take the negativity out of the communications industry by promoting positivity within the world and encouraging every person to give back by sharing the knowledge they acquire. The site will include videos to help people effectively market their business and skills through social media and networking. It will also include interviews, panel discussions, tutorials, and a platform to highlight people giving back to their communities. I’ve been blessed with this vision and come hell or high water it will be a success. I believe that if more people helped each other instead of focusing on self-preservation the world would be a better place.

The future is bright and I can’t wait for you to join me on this mission!

Who’s with me?!?!?!?

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